There’s a buffet restaurant a few miles from our home called Pacific Seafood Buffet. Most of the food is Asian, and the primary draw for us is all the sushi we care to eat for one price. Of course, there are a lot of other good dishes there too: tempura vegetables, shrimp, crab cakes, and many things you typically find at Asian buffets. And there’s green tea ice cream for dessert!
The lunch price is very reasonable, so we go every couple of months. (If we went more often, we would be huge.) Overall, I stay away from buffets because they are invitations to overeat. Our visits to Pacific Seafood Buffet are no exception; often, on the drive home, we realize that we have probably eaten too much.
What does this have to do with retirement?
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When you think about what your retirement lifestyle will be like, what comes to mind? What adjectives would you use to describe what you hope your life will be like?
I’ll bet one that’s high on your list is “stress-free.” Like practically everyone else, I’m sure you hope that your retirement years will be more relaxing and less stressful, since you will no longer have to deal with work, your kids will be grown, and you can spend your time doing what you want to do.
Ultimately, it should work out that way, but I’ve got some bad news for you. The transition into retirement might be one of the most stressful times of your life. Let’s look at why.
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I have been retired for nine months now. In some ways, it seems as though the time has flown by. In other ways, it seems like my life has been like this for a long time and work is now a distant memory.
When greeted by friends, I’m often asked, “So how’s retirement?” My stock answer is “Great!” And overall, it really is.
I’ve long been amused by this definition of the word “affirmation:” An affirmation is when you lie to yourself repeatedly until you actually believe the statement to be true. Therefore, whenever I answer an inquiry about how my retirement is going, when I answer “great!” I am reaffirming to myself that it actually is.
In fact, during retirement I’ve had happy, blissful days and I’ve had depressing, frustrating days – much the same as when you’re living any other phase of your life.
Here are seven things I have learned about being retired and about transitioning from work to retirement, followed by three key takeaways for you.
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Hopefully, you have at least a general idea of how you hope your life will unfold in the years to come. You probably have some ideas (whether vague or specific) about where you’d really like to live, where you hope to travel, when you hope to retire, and an assortment of dreams and “bucket list” items you’d like to do someday.
Have you shared these dreams, desires, and goals with your spouse?
How closely do they align with those of your spouse?
Do you know what his or her dreams, desires, and goals are well enough to describe them accurately?
You might be surprised how many couples haven’t had these conversations, or how many are operating under incorrect assumptions. It’s easy to envision your ideal future, with your spouse by your side, without actually getting your spouse’s input and buy-in.
It’s easy to assume that your spouse envisions the same future that you do.
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I’m convinced that for many people, their retirement years end up being a lot like the preconceived notions of retirement that they held during their working years.
If you look forward to your retirement years as being vibrant, fulfilling, and happy – they will be.
If you think retirement will be dull, boring, and beset with declining health – it probably will be.
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